iDENTITIES

today's identity

THE SCENT OF DEATH

 vintage fox fur coat, red lips by mom

Identity is a big part of us. For some, it's a really strong feature, some can't keep it stable for a very long time. For me it's totally the last one.

The method of how we build ourselves, our identities and our personality are dependent on our culture, sex, sexuality, family, friends, religion, icons... Basically by everything, that surrounds us. But very often these things also break down bits from our identities or even change them. For example; some people please their family and friends rather than themselves, because the acceptance is so important for them. Identity is a fragile and vulnerable feature that everyone should guard to the last second despite of others' opinions.

It also makes me furied that many people think that your identity should always be stable and they expect it to be static. I've never really understood why some make such noise about a person who changes and creates a new identity often. From my own experience, I can say that changing my identity from day to another makes me feel safe. Taking different roles - physical and spiritual - is a way for me to find out who I am and a way to express myself.


I wish that everyone would be allowed to show their own identity in a way that they want to. That the things that surround us would only be there to built and support, not to break down. It hurts me whenever I see someone who's not comfortable in their own character and outer identity because of the pressure from the outside. But maybe one day everyone is allowed to choose their own path - the identity of their life - from the very first step to the last one.